This is not what I wanted to blog about today, but this is what my day/week/month has been about. My 4-year-old is very smart and very loving, and lately, very obstinate in his refusal to cooperate with my requests. I've been trying to give him choices. The Parenting Pro's tell you, kids love choices, they love the feeling of control. It's true, I can see that, and sometimes it works. Most of the time, though, my real life experience does not reflect the scenarios written in parenting books. When I ask Max, "do you want to leave the park now, or in ten minutes," he happily agrees to leaving in ten minutes. However, when those ten minutes are up, does he joyfully get in the car, content that he was able to make the choice to stay a little longer? No, and reminding him that he chose this time to leave does not help quell the crying.
I'm not going to lie, I really don't know what to do. Lately the choices I have been giving him end with "or do you want to have time-out in your room?" It's not really a choice at all, more of an ultimatum, and one that isn't really working.
So I guess this post is more of a cry for help, encouragement, advice? Are some kids just more prone to fits and tantrums? How do other parents deal?